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Message ideas

What to say in a wedding message without writing a speech.

Share one memory of the couple, say why they work together, and raise a glass. Here are 20 ideas for a short wedding video or voice message, sorted by who’s talking.

From a friend

  • When you first knew they were right for each other, and what gave it away.

    Warm

  • One thing they do for each other that most people wouldn’t notice.

    Warm

  • The first time one of them mentioned the other to you, and how casual they tried to sound.

    Funny

  • Your advice to the new spouse on handling your friend, based on years of experience.

    Funny

  • You two make sense. Cheers to that.

    Short

From family

  • Welcome the new person into the family by name, and tell them one thing they’ll need to know about all of you.

    Warm

  • What you wish for them in ten years, as specific as you can make it: the kitchen, the Sunday mornings, the trips.

    Warm

  • A family tradition they’ll now have to sit through, explained honestly.

    Funny

  • The first time you met the partner, and what everyone said in the car afterwards.

    Funny

  • Welcome to the family. No returns.

    Short

From a coworker

  • How they talk about their partner at work, and what it tells you.

    Warm

  • What working next to them has shown you about the kind of partner they’ll be.

    Warm

  • The wedding planning you overheard at lunch for months, and your favorite detail.

    Funny

  • Your bet on whether they’ll check their email on the honeymoon.

    Funny

  • Congratulations. Send us one photo, not three hundred.

    Short

From someone who can’t be there

  • Where you are right now, and what you’re raising a glass with.

    Warm

  • The first time you saw them together, and what you thought.

    Warm

  • The toast you’d give if you were at the table, short enough to finish before the food gets cold.

    Warm

  • What you’d be doing on the dance floor right now, described in detail.

    Funny

  • Sorry I’m missing it. So happy for you both.

    Short

Tips for recording.

  1. Say both names, so it’s clearly for the two of them.
  2. Leave out exes, and anything you wouldn’t say with the grandparents listening.
  3. Think toast, not speech: under a minute is plenty.

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